At the waiting room of a famous laboratory, a couple of girls sat chatting together. Usually I wouldn’t get caught into anyone's conversation because it's rude. So as I waited for my turn I stuck to the seat right next to the TV. The volume was high and a very interesting show was running, but still it wasn’t enough. I clearly needed earphones to avoid over hearing their most absurd conversation. Now, I AM one person who has been at a British school all my life and I definitely know how it is to accidentally slip into English during a conversation, BUT GET SERIOUS! Those two really wanted attention. Sitting in a public place, full of common people – there is no way I can pretend I'm hanging out at Chili's!! People kept looking at them and staring like they're aliens, but those two never seemed to notice they were making a scene. Instead they kept repeating their Nooo and You're Kidding remarks at the end of every sentence.
This foreign language obsession is not just limited to fluent girls. I find it totally hilarious the way a mother would ask her son to get dressed up and "roo7 elbes el shoes beta3tak" What's wrong with gazma or sandal and what's so 3eeb about shebsheb?? Worse is "reglak lonha black" which clearly indicates that this person has no idea about the words dirty or not clean!! For God's sake, what's wrong with not knowing a foreign language or not being fluent? The French people are proud that they know nothing but French and don’t try to squeeze in any English. It's just a matter of confidence I think. Some girls try to mimic the American dialect thinking they would look cuter, but instead it makes them look goofy. The English-speaking French gals sound gorgeous with that French accent. A girl I knew pronounced all the Bs and Ps in all her sentences as P!! A loud PRAVOOOO in the middle of a bunch of English speaking guys looked absolutely pathetic, so why should she put her self in such an awkward situation when she can just say what she knows the way she is used to it?
It's just so sad! Why would any one be so twisted?? If I wanna be attractive, this is definitely not it. Take any guy's opinion about that, I guarantee at least a dozen of embarrassing comments. University gals these days act in the weirdest way, and I really mean WEIRD!! Some will almost hold up a sign saying "I'm a pervert!!" It's getting so ridiculous that scene of girls sitting on each other's laps for fun. Even worse are the artificial "ya 7iaty" or "ya ro7 alby" phrases that girls use pretending to be pure Lebanese.
It seems so schizophrenic to me. It's like wanting to live here but to belong to another world. An American friend of mine came for a visit a couple of months ago. Before she went out, she always asked me if her clothes indicated that she wasn’t Egyptian. Even she wanted to fit in, so why would an all-Egyptian girl want to look odd! For a minute you might think, what harm would a little bit of imagination do any way?? Well let me assure you – LOTS.
I remember clearly a wedding I had been to earlier. I arrived at midnight and the zaffa had just begun. As the bride emerged, it took me a while to discover who the groom was since she wasn’t holding anyone's hand. I asked why the zaffa was so late, so they told me the bride was dressing up. Naturally she wanted to look perfect, but the sad thing - that wasn’t my impression after a couple of minutes at all. It was like watching a Barbie doll with her stiff bent arms and constantly tip-toed feet. That Botox smile on her face is what blew her cover most. Instead of enjoying the happiest day in any girl's life, and living it minute by minute, she was too concerned with what people thought of her. She wasted more than half of her wedding on her looks. Any other couple, even if extremely tense, would look magnificent just being themselves on that night. But that doesn’t come so suddenly, it directly links to the previous habit. If a bride had constantly been trying to be out of this world, then she will continue to be odd and unaccepted – even on her wedding day!
Why is Mona Zaki more popular than Amira Fat7y even though Amira possesses more of the typical beauty specs? It's the way that Mona Zaki is always so natural. Even when she imitates another character, she makes sure not to over act. Even someone like Hend Rostom, with all her exaggerated dala3; people said she was so attractive because that is who she really was. Anytime, anywhere, even alone, she naturally spoke that way.
This means that psychologically speaking, it shouldn’t be difficult to realize you're on the wrong track, because it would reflect on your practical life. Psychiatrists say there are seven essential qualities found in good leaders. The first three are living life with honesty and integrity, being enthusiastic about what we do and being confident. Imagine, three out of seven traits have to do with behaving naturally! Psychiatrists therefore say that a woman, who fails to be her self, fails to build a successful job, fails to influence her husband and fails to raise a mentally balanced kid.
So a girl who naturally calls her dad baba will get much more admiration and attention than a girl who says pappy with a twist. And getting LOTS of attention for something completely silly is a disaster to anyone; silliest of all is trying to imitate something that is far away from one's nature.
So just be yourself, talk in your own way, and have faith that there is something special and cute about the real and natural you.
This foreign language obsession is not just limited to fluent girls. I find it totally hilarious the way a mother would ask her son to get dressed up and "roo7 elbes el shoes beta3tak" What's wrong with gazma or sandal and what's so 3eeb about shebsheb?? Worse is "reglak lonha black" which clearly indicates that this person has no idea about the words dirty or not clean!! For God's sake, what's wrong with not knowing a foreign language or not being fluent? The French people are proud that they know nothing but French and don’t try to squeeze in any English. It's just a matter of confidence I think. Some girls try to mimic the American dialect thinking they would look cuter, but instead it makes them look goofy. The English-speaking French gals sound gorgeous with that French accent. A girl I knew pronounced all the Bs and Ps in all her sentences as P!! A loud PRAVOOOO in the middle of a bunch of English speaking guys looked absolutely pathetic, so why should she put her self in such an awkward situation when she can just say what she knows the way she is used to it?
It's just so sad! Why would any one be so twisted?? If I wanna be attractive, this is definitely not it. Take any guy's opinion about that, I guarantee at least a dozen of embarrassing comments. University gals these days act in the weirdest way, and I really mean WEIRD!! Some will almost hold up a sign saying "I'm a pervert!!" It's getting so ridiculous that scene of girls sitting on each other's laps for fun. Even worse are the artificial "ya 7iaty" or "ya ro7 alby" phrases that girls use pretending to be pure Lebanese.
It seems so schizophrenic to me. It's like wanting to live here but to belong to another world. An American friend of mine came for a visit a couple of months ago. Before she went out, she always asked me if her clothes indicated that she wasn’t Egyptian. Even she wanted to fit in, so why would an all-Egyptian girl want to look odd! For a minute you might think, what harm would a little bit of imagination do any way?? Well let me assure you – LOTS.
I remember clearly a wedding I had been to earlier. I arrived at midnight and the zaffa had just begun. As the bride emerged, it took me a while to discover who the groom was since she wasn’t holding anyone's hand. I asked why the zaffa was so late, so they told me the bride was dressing up. Naturally she wanted to look perfect, but the sad thing - that wasn’t my impression after a couple of minutes at all. It was like watching a Barbie doll with her stiff bent arms and constantly tip-toed feet. That Botox smile on her face is what blew her cover most. Instead of enjoying the happiest day in any girl's life, and living it minute by minute, she was too concerned with what people thought of her. She wasted more than half of her wedding on her looks. Any other couple, even if extremely tense, would look magnificent just being themselves on that night. But that doesn’t come so suddenly, it directly links to the previous habit. If a bride had constantly been trying to be out of this world, then she will continue to be odd and unaccepted – even on her wedding day!
Why is Mona Zaki more popular than Amira Fat7y even though Amira possesses more of the typical beauty specs? It's the way that Mona Zaki is always so natural. Even when she imitates another character, she makes sure not to over act. Even someone like Hend Rostom, with all her exaggerated dala3; people said she was so attractive because that is who she really was. Anytime, anywhere, even alone, she naturally spoke that way.
This means that psychologically speaking, it shouldn’t be difficult to realize you're on the wrong track, because it would reflect on your practical life. Psychiatrists say there are seven essential qualities found in good leaders. The first three are living life with honesty and integrity, being enthusiastic about what we do and being confident. Imagine, three out of seven traits have to do with behaving naturally! Psychiatrists therefore say that a woman, who fails to be her self, fails to build a successful job, fails to influence her husband and fails to raise a mentally balanced kid.
So a girl who naturally calls her dad baba will get much more admiration and attention than a girl who says pappy with a twist. And getting LOTS of attention for something completely silly is a disaster to anyone; silliest of all is trying to imitate something that is far away from one's nature.
So just be yourself, talk in your own way, and have faith that there is something special and cute about the real and natural you.
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