Have you ever been in this situation… when you willingly choose to step back from a close friend of yours? Sometimes, you mistakenly take a person to be a buddy, and then later you decide it is only wise to back off :- )) but at other times bad luck REALLY strikes you, and there's no way but to keep your distance from your best buddy!
If you have been in that situation, I bet it felt like a great betrayal … saba7 el nadala ya3ny. This is not true though cuz life keeps changing. You can't continue to see your friend through the same perspective forever. One day you're eighth grade buddies, the second day you're married to a couple who hate each other's guts!! At this point, it's in your hands, either everything goes smooth and no one looses anything, or you scramble up everyone to end up in one big 3egga!! Just think of your options.
Your natural scenario is that you decide to hang on to your best buddy no matter what. Your friendship is above all and no one has the least right to make you let go of it :-/ You keep pushing, and with all the awkwardness you end up with a great mess!! Every gathering is a complete silence wel e7rag 3ala wedno :-S Eventually relations get more tense and uncomfortable we eb2a salemly 3al friendship ba2a!! Unfortunately the natural situation is really the bad scenario.
The good scenario is when you decide to keep a little space in between to keep things loose and smooth. You catch up with the gossip every now and then, arrange for one-on-one reunions, but never push for couple outings. This way when there's a gathering, you minimize the embarrassment and frustration. Stepping back here is not a betrayal, but is the only way to preserve relations between you.
All this is when you wanna be faithful, and you should be faithful, but it's just not appropriate. But what if you're being faithful to the wrong person in the first place?? 7aga keda fel goon!! This is usually the mistake of a lifetime behind the wreck of a lot of people I personally know. They just trust a person and consider them a real pal when they don’t deserve to be. I know that feeling you'd sometimes get, that you're getting along, but it absolutely doesn’t prove that you're friends. With the first mingle in that person's private life, you're dead meat!! Trust me and take my word, best friends are made instantly only in first grade! So don’t even think of opening up with someone who hasn’t been your very close companion for quite a long time.
It's just marvelous to appreciate and treasure a friend, but what really counts is to recognize a true friend from a fake. And in order to uphold any old or new friendship you gotta be flexible with changing circumstances and compromise to continue with the superb feelings of being best friends.
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